Perusing the internet while on another random rabbit hole of searches I because curious about the evening routines of real women. I was surprised to discover there isn’t much out there. Apparently, not many women are sharing what they are doing at least not on the internet. As I couldn’t let my curiosity go I decided to as a few friends what their routines look like. Most of them are moms themselves with two of the women not being mothers yet.


Age: Late thirties
Kids: 1 high schooler, 1 middle schooler
Occupation: social media manager, Yoga Instuctor, Piano Tutor

I try to have my face washed and teeth brushed and ready for bed by 8:00 PM – 8:30 PM.  Sometimes washing it too close to bedtime perks me up, making it harder to fall asleep. I use The Ordinary skincare line and my favorite products to use are the rosehip oil during winter because it keeps my skin looking dewy but not oily (and I have oily skin!) and the salicylic masque (twice a week) to help with any breakouts. I have a Quip toothbrush which makes it easy to brush each quadrant for the right amount of time and hit all the places where gunk gets hidden.

Regardless of if I need to wake up by 4:00 AM to teach yoga or if I can sleep in until 6:30 AM, I am IN bed by 9:00 PM.  I journal for about 10-20 mins and read until about 10:00 PM.  I’m currently reading “Deacon King Kong” by James McBride. My journaling has become less like a diary of my day and more a list of things I need to let go (perceived slights, bad moments, parenting frustrations), things I’m grateful for and self empowering mantras (I’m a badass mom who is strong and capable).  Doing this nightly has been so amazing and helpful in keeping me grounded and from falling into deeper frustration about things I can’t control and also in amping myself up about me! My favorite part of journaling and reflecting on all the good stuff. During this time I try to not pick up my phone to check the weather or my alarm or answer any texts. Then it’s lights out and sleep time!  Or sometimes sexy time, I definitely make allowances for that!


Age: Early thirties
Kids: 1 toddler
Occupation: Stay at home Mom

After I get my son ready for bed, I clean up the kitchen. Then I go put my pj’s on and fix the bed. I wash my face, use toner and moisturizer. I use Bambuearth products. Then I will have a glass of wine and watch something on my tablet. Right now I’m watching Schitt’s Creek. Around 10:00 PM I will take my meds, brush my teeth, and start my meditation. After that, I go to sleep.


Age: Late thirties
Kids: 1 toddler
Occupation: archivist

I’m not sure if my night routine is very interesting. It usually involves putzing around on my phone, realizing it’s way past my bedtime, then swearing to myself about how tired I will be the next day while I brush my teeth, lol.


Age: Early Thirties
Kids: none yet
Occupation: engineer

I like to unwind by writing my to-do for the next day and meditating. If it’s been a difficult day and it’s cold outside, I may drink some herbal tea and indulge in dark chocolate or a delicious macaron. Otherwise, I will be eating berries for the antioxidants, drinking fruit juice, or eating yogurt to feel healthy. I love reading but recently I have started to listen more to audiobooks and podcasts because then I can close my eyes and wind down while still stimulating my mind. If it’s been a stressful day, I may take a bubble bath or meditate to clear my mind.

Before sleeping, I brush my teeth, floss, and mouthwash. I try to keep my nighttime skincare routine simple. I love the It Cosmetics skincare line. I don’t usually wear foundation or makeup in general. I like to keep it simple and natural. At night, I use the It Cosmetics Miracle Water 3 in 1 Micellar Cleanser to remove any makeup or build-up from the day. I will sometimes use an all-natural pore minimizing toner afterward but not daily because it feels like it is a bit too drying and the pores on my cheek/nose area are no longer as obvious (I had mild acne as a teenager). After the cleanser, I apply the It Cosmetics Confidence in an Eye Cream followed by the It Cosmetics Confidence in Beauty Sleep Eye Cream. Although this cream may be a bit pricey, it smells like lavender, doesn’t rub off on my pillow, and makes my skin feel amazing.


Age: Early thirties
Kids: 1 elementary schooler, 1 preschooler
Occupation: Social Worker

I put my kiddos to bed around 7:00 PM, starting my homework by 7:30 PM. I try to wrap that up by 9:00 PM to end the night with a bubble bath or warm shower before bed. I use almost all Arbonne products for skincare, makeup, and nutrition. They are vegan, gluten-free, and plant-based products.

The most important part of my routine is waking up early to have me-time before the day starts. This gets me in a positive mindset and helps me be a better mother, wife, social worker, student, and overall person.


Age: early twenties
Kids: none yet
Occupation: speech language pathologist

After work, I go to the gym and either workout or play basketball until about 8:00 PM. Then I come home, shower, do my skincare (curology), make dinner, and eat while watching TV. I usually fall asleep on the couch watching tv and wake up about an hour later then I brush my teeth, put in my retainer, and sometimes read a little before I pass out for the night. 


Age: late twenties
Kids: 2 elementary schoolers, 2 toddlers
Occupation: stay at home mom, mary kay salesperson

In the evenings, a couple of nights I have Zoom meetings with my sales groups. Then once the kids are in bed, I do a few hours of work, catch up on things that I have missed. I start my intermittent fasting window around 7:00 PM (I don’t eat again until 11:00 AM – give or take a few hours). This is to establish healthier eating practices, so I don’t snack as I used to in the evenings! Sometimes my husband and I will watch an episode from a show that we are watching together.  A few nights a week I get on the elliptical. This is the only time I allow myself to watch shows on Netflix or Hulu so I am quite motivated to get on the elliptical! Before I shower, or before cleansing, I use Mary Kay Oil-Free Eye Makeup Remover. In the shower, I use Mary Kay Satin Body Revitalizing Shea Scrub and Mary Kay Satin Body Indulgent Shea Wash, and TimeWise Age Minimizing 3D 4-in-1 Facial Cleanser. A couple of times a week I use the Mary Kay TimeWise Microdermabrasion Set which comes with a facial scrub and a pore minimizing serum. After showering, or if I don’t shower but just wash my face with my cleanser, I use the Mary Kay Botanical Effects Facial Toner, TimeWise Age-Minimizing Night Cream, TimeWise Age Minimizing Eye Cream, and Mary Kay Oil-Free Hydrating Gel. A couple of times a week I use Mary Kay’s Clearproof Deep Cleansing Charcoal Mask and TimeWise Moisture Renewing Gel Mask. I usually leave this on overnight, it’s great! I also use the Mary Kay Skinigorate System with the Facial Massage head to massage in my facial cleanser. It helps with relaxing my tense facial muscles and overall relaxation before bed. Right before I go to bed I take Plexus ProBio5 and Plexus BioCleanse. My absolute favorite part of my routine is when I wash my face and use the Skinvigorate Facial Massage on my face.

The Evening Routines of Real Women, What’s Yours Like?

The evening routines of real women vary greatly and it’s fun to learn what other women are doing to wrap up their day. What’s the end of your day like? Do you have anything in common with the women above or something you just can’t sleep without completing?